Category: relocation

How Do I Handle Out-Of-State Timesharing?

How Do I Handle Out-Of-State Timesharing?

Child custody and timesharing cases can be some of the most difficult, emotionally charged cases.  These cases are further complicated when one parent lives in a different state.  There are a number of things to keep in mind in dealing with a timesharing schedule across state lines.

BE FLEXIBLE

This is good advice in any co-parenting situation, but is doubly important in multi-state situations.  If the parties are flexible and realistic in these situations, it makes life so much easier.  The parents have to realize that they will not be able to share the same sort of schedule as parents who live in close proximity.  Holidays will not be able to be divided in the same manner.  It may be necessary to consider alternating holidays or celebrating the holiday on an alternate day.  In my own family, we have adopted the tradition for years of celebrating major holidays on the Sunday before the actual holiday just to make sure it does not interfere with anyone else’s plans.  As our family has grown and expanded this has continued to work for our family.  After all, the important thing is the time together, not the date on the calendar.

MONEY MATTERS

Increased distance between the parents means increased expenses transporting the children.  Figure out the finances on the front end.  Will one person transport to visits and the other return the child?  Will you meet in the middle?  Dealing with the expense of traveling for visits gets even more important if air travel is necessary.  The airfare, hotels, gas money all add up over time.  The more detailed you can be in the planning, the more likely you will avoid contention in the future.

COMMUNICATE EARLY AND OFTEN

When in person visits are not possible, electronic communication becomes vitally important.  Fortunately, there are a numerous options available for parents and children separated by long distances.  Skype, Google Hangouts, FaceTime and other video chat options are available to actually allow you to see the child while you are talking.  Keep in mind that children have social lives as well, so you may need to include time for reasonable and regular communication in your parenting plan to ensure that the child is available.  Although it is not a perfect solution, it will help you maintain an active role in your child’s life.

Although multi-state parenting is a difficult situation, safeguards can be put in place to make it as workable as possible.

Photo courtesy of Kevin Dooley

Can I Prevent the Other Party From Relocating?

Can I Prevent the Other Party From Relocating?

 

In our increasingly mobile society, it is a sad reality that at some point in a coparenting relationship, one parent may decide to relocate to another state and take the child.  There are a myriad of legitimate reasons for a move.  Perhaps, new job opportunities await.  The other parent may have additional family available to help them.  The person may simply want a new start (maybe in a warmer climate).  Many people want to know if there is anything they can do to prevent the possibility of such a move.

KENTUCKY RELOCATION RULES

Kentucky has implemented the Family Court Rules of Practice and Procedure.  Those rules specify that “[b]efore a joint custodian seeks to relocate, written notice shall be filed with the court and notice shall be served on the non-relocating joint custodian.”  Once that notice is filed, the other party can file a motion to modify custody or timesharing within twenty (20) days unless the parties agree.  Whether the court allows the relocation will be very fact dependent, but if a parent is seeking to relocate solely to frustrate the other parent’s time or relationship with the child, the court will likely not allow the child to move in a joint custody situation.  If, however, the relocating parent is a sole custodian, the chances of the court approving the relocation are greatly increased and the rules less stringent.

BACKUP PLAN

Another option to plan for a possible relocation is to have a backup plan; a “Plan B” timesharing schedule if you will.  In this situation if you know there is a chance that one parent may relocate in the near future, you can build that eventuality into the parenting plan.  In that way, if there is a relocation, no additional litigation expenses are incurred, the parties would simply begin following the “Plan B” schedule.  While it may not be a particularly pleasant thought to contemplate, it is better to address the possibility now rather than having to relitigate the case.

NO RELOCATION CLAUSE

A final option is to include a firm “no relocation” clause in a final parenting agreement.  You may or may not be successful in negotiating such a provision and it will probably depend heavily on the parties involved.  Keep in mind it is unlikely that a court would ever order such a provision in a final judgment so this could only be included in a negotiated settlement.  If you include a “no relocation” clause, it will need to be very narrowly crafted.  courts are very hesitant to enforce these clauses for fear of violating a person’s right to relocate for legitimate, good faith reasons.  The courts are at all times primarily concerned with the best interests of the children and could very well override the “no relocation” clause.

If relocation is a possibility in your case, discuss the issue with your divorce/custody attorney as soon as possible to ensure your rights are properly addressed.

Photo courtesy of Karen Apricot